Never, Ever, Go to Court Without a Lawyer

"He who represents himself has a fool for a lawyer" - Abraham Lincoln Lincoln was actually referring to lawyers who represent themselves but I've seen it time after time when litigants believe they can represent themselves and be effective. Walking into a courtroom for any kind of litigation or hearing without a lawyer is like … Continue reading Never, Ever, Go to Court Without a Lawyer

The Worst Thing

Right now, you believe that the worst thing that has happened to you is that someone has destroyed your ability to trust other human beings.  You believe that you will never trust anyone again.  You're right in that your ability to trust others has been damaged.  Perhaps it has been severely damaged. But that's not … Continue reading The Worst Thing

It’s On Me

I admit it.  I would leave then I would go back.  Again and again.  It was sick really.  I blamed his sickness.  Never mine.  All I could see was his alcoholism and his abuse.  He was the perpetrator and I was the victim. Over and over and over again. Believe me, there was a lot … Continue reading It’s On Me

Your People

  Most of you know that I rarely advocate looking back at your personal past.  I do believe wholeheartedly that looking back is essential to your personal growth - just don't get stuck there.  Looking back on occasion is also essential to see how far you've come, and telling your past stories is also of … Continue reading Your People

Letting People In

I've been having a running conversation for the last few weeks with a friend of mine.  We've been discussing finding our "Real Equal" or our "True Partner", and we're exploring the different facets of what a "Real Equal" looks like to each of us. So far, we've covered: Intellectual Equals - I had mine briefly … Continue reading Letting People In

A Blog I Adore by a Man I Have Loved All My Life

I wanted to pass this along to you - it's a new blog about my friend's journey with cancer.  It's funny, irreverent and brilliant.  Just like it's author. (I'm wasted and) I can't find my way home If cancer has touched your life in any way, read this blog, follow it and share it. Writing … Continue reading A Blog I Adore by a Man I Have Loved All My Life

Let Them Walk

I stumbled across one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen last night.  The wealth of knowledge, entertainment and inspiration available on Youtube just boggles my mind.  What a luxury to live in these technological times! This is the video I saw last night - I watched it over and over: Let Them Walk, … Continue reading Let Them Walk

Boundaries & Balance

You never know when a person's hard limit is crossed.  You also never know how a person will respond when that hard limit is ignored or crossed.  When people feel threatened, hard-wiring kicks in and we go into Survival Mode. In Survival Mode, you sink deeper and deeper into this black hole where you feel … Continue reading Boundaries & Balance

“You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Why yes.  Yes, I was.  And guess what?  Whenever I talk about it a lot, I'm still bitter.  I can still work up those same feelings of righteous indignation.  I rarely do but they're still buried in there somewhere. Quite frankly, I don't care who knows it.  What's wrong with being bitter occasionally?  What's wrong … Continue reading “You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Being Unloveable

Good grief!  This is SO IMPORTANT!  You have to distinguish between someone else's lack and your own.  Their lack isn't yours.  Ever. Particularly with Narcissists, Narcopaths, Sociopaths, etc.  Depending upon the degree of their illness, they can be completely incapable of loving another human being.  I'm not kidding.  They simply can't. They don't know how … Continue reading Being Unloveable