You don’t have to be happy about it. You don’t have to be glad it happened. Whether it’s marital, family, employment, or friendship related. You are going through a breakup. Accept it.
Surrender to it. Cry, scream, throw things, cuss, throw up – whatever it is that you need to do to surrender to the fact that this is what it is – do it. Make sure you don’t throw anything breakable that you will regret (and don’t throw it at anyone).
Get a plastic baseball bat and beat the hell out of a pillow or your bed. Go into the woods and scream as loudly as you can. Sit in the middle of the floor and sob.
Do whatever it is that you have to do to move the emotions out of your body and come to terms with what has happened in your life.
If you have kids – DO NOT DO ANY OF THESE THINGS IN FRONT OF THEM except perhaps crying. And if your kid asks why you’re crying, own it. Tell them you’re sad. Tell them your heart is broken. Let them cry with you. Then tell them this will pass and everything will be ok.
You absolutely cannot thrive through a breakup without accepting that the breakup has happened. Acknowledge it. Claim it. Own it.
Once you turn the light on it, its powerful hold over you will evaporate.
Just know, my Warrior, that you might have to do this more than once. Trust me. This too shall pass. Everything will be ok.