Warriors, you know the saying, “Hindsight is always 20-20“. Indeed it is. It’s always easy to see how things happened when you can look at them from the other side of the bridge.
No matter the source of your Breakup, at some point in time you’ll beat yourself up for not seeing things sooner, not reacting sooner or (as I have) not getting involved at all to begin with. What a waste of time and energy! Just don’t go there!
It’s the easiest thing in the world to look back and make critical judgments about the decisions we make – we have more information now than we did then. That’s the way life works. But what good does it do you to sit around and beat the hell out of yourself for the decisions you made? You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Let. It. Go.
One of my favorite natural horsemanship mentors tells me all the time: “When you know better, you do better.” Life is a learning experience. You never get it done so you can never truly fail. You always have the opportunity to learn and grow. Take advantage of it, and cut yourself some slack. There have been times when I have been really down and wondered how in the world I married a narcissistic sociopath. I mean really! I’m a smart girl whose been around the block – how did I not see through him?
But what good does that do? None! Sometimes the worst bullies around are the voices in our own heads. Stop bullying yourself! Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to the person you love the most in this world. Just don’t!
The next time you start that crap with yourself, take a deep breath and say this to yourself:
I forgive myself for the decisions I have made that haven’t turned out the way I wanted. I release all shame, guilt, regret, and fear from my life. I am learning to be kind to myself and to care for myself. My life is perfect just as it is and so am I. And so it is!
Try that for a week consistently and see what happens. Warriors take care of themselves as well as they care for others. It’s time to Warrior Up and take care of yourself. If it’s really hard for you, leave a comment and I’ll help you!