It’s On Me

I admit it.  I would leave then I would go back.  Again and again.  It was sick really.  I blamed his sickness.  Never mine.  All I could see was his alcoholism and his abuse.  He was the perpetrator and I was the victim. Over and over and over again. Believe me, there was a lot … Continue reading It’s On Me

Your People

  Most of you know that I rarely advocate looking back at your personal past.  I do believe wholeheartedly that looking back is essential to your personal growth - just don't get stuck there.  Looking back on occasion is also essential to see how far you've come, and telling your past stories is also of … Continue reading Your People

Letting People In

I've been having a running conversation for the last few weeks with a friend of mine.  We've been discussing finding our "Real Equal" or our "True Partner", and we're exploring the different facets of what a "Real Equal" looks like to each of us. So far, we've covered: Intellectual Equals - I had mine briefly … Continue reading Letting People In

A Blog I Adore by a Man I Have Loved All My Life

I wanted to pass this along to you - it's a new blog about my friend's journey with cancer.  It's funny, irreverent and brilliant.  Just like it's author. (I'm wasted and) I can't find my way home If cancer has touched your life in any way, read this blog, follow it and share it. Writing … Continue reading A Blog I Adore by a Man I Have Loved All My Life

Let Them Walk

I stumbled across one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen last night.  The wealth of knowledge, entertainment and inspiration available on Youtube just boggles my mind.  What a luxury to live in these technological times! This is the video I saw last night - I watched it over and over: Let Them Walk, … Continue reading Let Them Walk

Boundaries & Balance

You never know when a person's hard limit is crossed.  You also never know how a person will respond when that hard limit is ignored or crossed.  When people feel threatened, hard-wiring kicks in and we go into Survival Mode. In Survival Mode, you sink deeper and deeper into this black hole where you feel … Continue reading Boundaries & Balance

“You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Why yes.  Yes, I was.  And guess what?  Whenever I talk about it a lot, I'm still bitter.  I can still work up those same feelings of righteous indignation.  I rarely do but they're still buried in there somewhere. Quite frankly, I don't care who knows it.  What's wrong with being bitter occasionally?  What's wrong … Continue reading “You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Being Unloveable

Good grief!  This is SO IMPORTANT!  You have to distinguish between someone else's lack and your own.  Their lack isn't yours.  Ever. Particularly with Narcissists, Narcopaths, Sociopaths, etc.  Depending upon the degree of their illness, they can be completely incapable of loving another human being.  I'm not kidding.  They simply can't. They don't know how … Continue reading Being Unloveable

Milestones

May 25, 2017: The day any chance for success (that my marriage to Walkaway Bob had) died. As soon as I woke up today and realized it's May 25, 2018, that fateful day a year ago has been on my mind.  Not because I would like to go back to that day and do anything … Continue reading Milestones

The Benefits of Crappy Situations

It doesn't matter what your "crappy situation" is, everyone finds themselves swirling in the bottom of the toilet bowl on occasion.  It happens more than once in every lifetime.  Regardless of your individual circumstances, crappy situations will find you.  Some will be milder than others.  Some will barely register on your Richter Scale.  Some will drop … Continue reading The Benefits of Crappy Situations