Why yes. Yes, I was. And guess what? Whenever I talk about it a lot, I'm still bitter. I can still work up those same feelings of righteous indignation. I rarely do but they're still buried in there somewhere. Quite frankly, I don't care who knows it. What's wrong with being bitter occasionally? What's wrong … Continue reading “You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”
Category: Handling Emotions
Being Unloveable
Good grief! This is SO IMPORTANT! You have to distinguish between someone else's lack and your own. Their lack isn't yours. Ever. Particularly with Narcissists, Narcopaths, Sociopaths, etc. Depending upon the degree of their illness, they can be completely incapable of loving another human being. I'm not kidding. They simply can't. They don't know how … Continue reading Being Unloveable
Milestones
May 25, 2017: The day any chance for success (that my marriage to Walkaway Bob had) died. As soon as I woke up today and realized it's May 25, 2018, that fateful day a year ago has been on my mind. Not because I would like to go back to that day and do anything … Continue reading Milestones
The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time
One of the basic truths of life is that everything is temporary. Even physical life itself. So it stands to reason that every situation or circumstance is also always temporary. One year ago today, I confronted Walkaway Bob about his online dating site profile which I had found a few days before. And such was … Continue reading The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time
Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes
I have been accused of: Disappearing Withdrawing Being Cold Being Cruel Shutting Others Out Etc., etc., etc. I know, right? Can you imagine anyone accusing me of these things? 😉 Now it is true that, on occasion, I have done/been each of those. More recently though, these are side effects, if you will, of me practicing … Continue reading Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes
Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness
There was a conversation a few weeks ago on Facebook about grief & sadness. The typical train of thought came up: grieving the loss of a loved one is somehow more painful than going through a divorce, breakup or the like. Having never experienced the death of a spouse, I can't speak to it. Thank … Continue reading Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness
Stop Asking Why
Just stop. Stop asking yourself "Why? Why did this happen to me?". Just stop. NOW. Many of my clients keep asking these questions. I have never dwelled on these Why questions but I understand where they come from. Human beings need to be able to understand why things happen in their lives for one … Continue reading Stop Asking Why
For The Good Times
I had to go through my photograph boxes last night. A member of my family asked me to find a picture for them. So I did. And I came across this one. It's one of the few pictures I kept of my ex, GP. The note on the back reads: Camden, Maine, 2000 In an … Continue reading For The Good Times
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year
Merry Christmas to all of you! It's been a tough year for some of us. Some are thriving. Some are sad. Some are just putting one foot in front of the other. If nothing else, I hope you have learned from me that everything is temporary, and that you can thrive through anything life throws … Continue reading Merry Christmas & Happy New Year
Take Advantage of The Winter Solstice
Today is December 21st. The Winter Solstice. In some circles, it is known as the "Feast of Potentials". I love that - The Feast of Potentials. If you believe in astrology, this year the Winter Solstice is particularly powerful. Today the Sun not only enters Capricorn but Saturn as well which foretells a major energy … Continue reading Take Advantage of The Winter Solstice
