The Worst Thing

Right now, you believe that the worst thing that has happened to you is that someone has destroyed your ability to trust other human beings.  You believe that you will never trust anyone again.  You're right in that your ability to trust others has been damaged.  Perhaps it has been severely damaged. But that's not … Continue reading The Worst Thing

It’s On Me

I admit it.  I would leave then I would go back.  Again and again.  It was sick really.  I blamed his sickness.  Never mine.  All I could see was his alcoholism and his abuse.  He was the perpetrator and I was the victim. Over and over and over again. Believe me, there was a lot … Continue reading It’s On Me

Let Them Walk

I stumbled across one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen last night.  The wealth of knowledge, entertainment and inspiration available on Youtube just boggles my mind.  What a luxury to live in these technological times! This is the video I saw last night - I watched it over and over: Let Them Walk, … Continue reading Let Them Walk

Boundaries & Balance

You never know when a person's hard limit is crossed.  You also never know how a person will respond when that hard limit is ignored or crossed.  When people feel threatened, hard-wiring kicks in and we go into Survival Mode. In Survival Mode, you sink deeper and deeper into this black hole where you feel … Continue reading Boundaries & Balance

Being Unloveable

Good grief!  This is SO IMPORTANT!  You have to distinguish between someone else's lack and your own.  Their lack isn't yours.  Ever. Particularly with Narcissists, Narcopaths, Sociopaths, etc.  Depending upon the degree of their illness, they can be completely incapable of loving another human being.  I'm not kidding.  They simply can't. They don't know how … Continue reading Being Unloveable

Milestones

May 25, 2017: The day any chance for success (that my marriage to Walkaway Bob had) died. As soon as I woke up today and realized it's May 25, 2018, that fateful day a year ago has been on my mind.  Not because I would like to go back to that day and do anything … Continue reading Milestones

The Benefits of Crappy Situations

It doesn't matter what your "crappy situation" is, everyone finds themselves swirling in the bottom of the toilet bowl on occasion.  It happens more than once in every lifetime.  Regardless of your individual circumstances, crappy situations will find you.  Some will be milder than others.  Some will barely register on your Richter Scale.  Some will drop … Continue reading The Benefits of Crappy Situations

The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

One of the basic truths of life is that everything is temporary.  Even physical life itself.  So it stands to reason that every situation or circumstance is also always temporary. One year ago today, I confronted Walkaway Bob about his online dating site profile which I had found a few days before.  And such was … Continue reading The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

I have been accused of: Disappearing Withdrawing Being Cold Being Cruel Shutting Others Out Etc., etc., etc. I know, right?  Can you imagine anyone accusing me of these things?  😉 Now it is true that, on occasion, I have done/been each of those.  More recently though, these are side effects, if you will, of me practicing … Continue reading Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness

There was a conversation a few weeks ago on Facebook about grief & sadness.  The typical train of thought came up: grieving the loss of a loved one is somehow more painful than going through a divorce, breakup or the like. Having never experienced the death of a spouse, I can't speak to it.  Thank … Continue reading Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness