Just stop. Stop asking yourself "Why? Why did this happen to me?". Just stop. NOW. Many of my clients keep asking these questions. I have never dwelled on these Why questions but I understand where they come from. Human beings need to be able to understand why things happen in their lives for one … Continue reading Stop Asking Why
This past Sunday night, I decided to have a funeral. A full blown, burn the body, funeral. Someone said something to me last week that made me realize that, even though I've come so far in these last many months, there is still some letting go for me to do. It feels like scraping the … Continue reading Plan a Funeral
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Don't get me wrong - I love Restraining Orders. They work wonders with the average, garden variety bully. What they won't do is protect you or your family from a rageaholic, or anyone who isn't concerned about breaking the law. A Restraining Order can also be called an Order of Protection. In most states, there … Continue reading A Restraining Order is Just a Piece of Paper
I'm not sure I really know what forgiveness is. The word itself is so convoluted. I like clean, succinct words. I understand choosing to let go. I understand moving forward. I understand dropping your "bags" at the baggage claim and flying away. Shoot, I even once visualized leaving some suitcases on the side of I-85 … Continue reading What Exactly is Forgiveness?
Someone asked me, by email, why I refer to my estranged husband as "Walkaway Bob". One thing my mother did was pass down to me her penchant for having nicknames for every human and/or animal in her life. Hence my horse has several nicknames - The Blonde Bombshell, Babygirl, The Girl, and, when I'm not … Continue reading That Boy’s Just a Walkaway Joe
I have mentioned my ex-husband (not to be confused with my current estranged husband, Walkaway Bob) a time or two, and I've gotten some emails asking that I share my experiences in that relationship. It's not a story I tell very often. Mostly because it's behind me, and I really don't think about it very … Continue reading Breaking Up with an Abuser
I happened to glance at my calendar today and realized that it was only six months ago, to the day, that I found out that my husband had a profile on an online dating site. That was the day my marriage ended for all practical purposes, and it feels like light years ago instead of … Continue reading Time Flies When You’re Having Fun!
Before we move on from the topic of Narcissists, let's discuss the Minimal/Low Contact and No Contact Rules for dealing with them. Of course, any option you choose in dealing with the Narcissists in your life is up to you. I'm not telling you what to do at all. (Mostly because I despise when anyone … Continue reading Narcissists, Liars & Sociopaths – Part 3
Warriors, I love emails from you! And particularly when I was just talking with a good friend about this very same thing! Here's an email I received this week - it contains a very poignant question: "Hi Erin! Love, love, love your blog! You have made me really think about what's happened and where I … Continue reading I Love Email Questions!