Never, Ever, Go to Court Without a Lawyer

"He who represents himself has a fool for a lawyer" - Abraham Lincoln Lincoln was actually referring to lawyers who represent themselves but I've seen it time after time when litigants believe they can represent themselves and be effective. Walking into a courtroom for any kind of litigation or hearing without a lawyer is like … Continue reading Never, Ever, Go to Court Without a Lawyer

The Worst Thing

Right now, you believe that the worst thing that has happened to you is that someone has destroyed your ability to trust other human beings.  You believe that you will never trust anyone again.  You're right in that your ability to trust others has been damaged.  Perhaps it has been severely damaged. But that's not … Continue reading The Worst Thing

Let Them Walk

I stumbled across one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen last night.  The wealth of knowledge, entertainment and inspiration available on Youtube just boggles my mind.  What a luxury to live in these technological times! This is the video I saw last night - I watched it over and over: Let Them Walk, … Continue reading Let Them Walk

“You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Why yes.  Yes, I was.  And guess what?  Whenever I talk about it a lot, I'm still bitter.  I can still work up those same feelings of righteous indignation.  I rarely do but they're still buried in there somewhere. Quite frankly, I don't care who knows it.  What's wrong with being bitter occasionally?  What's wrong … Continue reading “You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”


May 25, 2017: The day any chance for success (that my marriage to Walkaway Bob had) died. As soon as I woke up today and realized it's May 25, 2018, that fateful day a year ago has been on my mind.  Not because I would like to go back to that day and do anything … Continue reading Milestones

The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

One of the basic truths of life is that everything is temporary.  Even physical life itself.  So it stands to reason that every situation or circumstance is also always temporary. One year ago today, I confronted Walkaway Bob about his online dating site profile which I had found a few days before.  And such was … Continue reading The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

I have been accused of: Disappearing Withdrawing Being Cold Being Cruel Shutting Others Out Etc., etc., etc. I know, right?  Can you imagine anyone accusing me of these things?  😉 Now it is true that, on occasion, I have done/been each of those.  More recently though, these are side effects, if you will, of me practicing … Continue reading Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

Stop Asking Why

  Just stop.  Stop asking yourself "Why? Why did this happen to me?".  Just stop. NOW. Many of my clients keep asking these questions.  I have never dwelled on these Why questions but I understand where they come from.  Human beings need to be able to understand why things happen in their lives for one … Continue reading Stop Asking Why

Plan a Funeral

This past Sunday night, I decided to have a funeral.  A full blown, burn the body, funeral.  Someone said something to me last week that made me realize that, even though I've come so far in these last many months, there is still some letting go for me to do. It feels like scraping the … Continue reading Plan a Funeral