Your People

  Most of you know that I rarely advocate looking back at your personal past.  I do believe wholeheartedly that looking back is essential to your personal growth - just don't get stuck there.  Looking back on occasion is also essential to see how far you've come, and telling your past stories is also of … Continue reading Your People

Letting People In

I've been having a running conversation for the last few weeks with a friend of mine.  We've been discussing finding our "Real Equal" or our "True Partner", and we're exploring the different facets of what a "Real Equal" looks like to each of us. So far, we've covered: Intellectual Equals - I had mine briefly … Continue reading Letting People In

Boundaries & Balance

You never know when a person's hard limit is crossed.  You also never know how a person will respond when that hard limit is ignored or crossed.  When people feel threatened, hard-wiring kicks in and we go into Survival Mode. In Survival Mode, you sink deeper and deeper into this black hole where you feel … Continue reading Boundaries & Balance

“You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Why yes.  Yes, I was.  And guess what?  Whenever I talk about it a lot, I'm still bitter.  I can still work up those same feelings of righteous indignation.  I rarely do but they're still buried in there somewhere. Quite frankly, I don't care who knows it.  What's wrong with being bitter occasionally?  What's wrong … Continue reading “You Were Really Bitter Last Summer”

Being Unloveable

Good grief!  This is SO IMPORTANT!  You have to distinguish between someone else's lack and your own.  Their lack isn't yours.  Ever. Particularly with Narcissists, Narcopaths, Sociopaths, etc.  Depending upon the degree of their illness, they can be completely incapable of loving another human being.  I'm not kidding.  They simply can't. They don't know how … Continue reading Being Unloveable

Milestones

May 25, 2017: The day any chance for success (that my marriage to Walkaway Bob had) died. As soon as I woke up today and realized it's May 25, 2018, that fateful day a year ago has been on my mind.  Not because I would like to go back to that day and do anything … Continue reading Milestones

The Benefits of Crappy Situations

It doesn't matter what your "crappy situation" is, everyone finds themselves swirling in the bottom of the toilet bowl on occasion.  It happens more than once in every lifetime.  Regardless of your individual circumstances, crappy situations will find you.  Some will be milder than others.  Some will barely register on your Richter Scale.  Some will drop … Continue reading The Benefits of Crappy Situations

The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

One of the basic truths of life is that everything is temporary.  Even physical life itself.  So it stands to reason that every situation or circumstance is also always temporary. One year ago today, I confronted Walkaway Bob about his online dating site profile which I had found a few days before.  And such was … Continue reading The Sun Doesn’t Shine on the Same Horse’s Back All the Time

Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

I have been accused of: Disappearing Withdrawing Being Cold Being Cruel Shutting Others Out Etc., etc., etc. I know, right?  Can you imagine anyone accusing me of these things?  😉 Now it is true that, on occasion, I have done/been each of those.  More recently though, these are side effects, if you will, of me practicing … Continue reading Judicious Silence Speaks Volumes

Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness

There was a conversation a few weeks ago on Facebook about grief & sadness.  The typical train of thought came up: grieving the loss of a loved one is somehow more painful than going through a divorce, breakup or the like. Having never experienced the death of a spouse, I can't speak to it.  Thank … Continue reading Let’s Stop Shaming Each Other Over Grief & Sadness