What do I mean by war? Certainly not physically armed battle. War to me is any time you (or your children) are threatened - physically, emotionally and/or financially - or any time you are facing litigation. Litigation is war. Make no mistake about it. I was blessed in my early career to be tutored by … Continue reading This Is War
I ran a red light once, and t-boned another car. It was a Friday afternoon, and I had just left work. I was thinking about the weekend. I wasn't paying attention. A car to my left moved, so I went right through the light without realizing it was still red. One of the passengers in … Continue reading More Thoughts on Forgiveness
I'm not sure I really know what forgiveness is. The word itself is so convoluted. I like clean, succinct words. I understand choosing to let go. I understand moving forward. I understand dropping your "bags" at the baggage claim and flying away. Shoot, I even once visualized leaving some suitcases on the side of I-85 … Continue reading What Exactly is Forgiveness?
Someone asked me, by email, why I refer to my estranged husband as "Walkaway Bob". One thing my mother did was pass down to me her penchant for having nicknames for every human and/or animal in her life. Hence my horse has several nicknames - The Blonde Bombshell, Babygirl, The Girl, and, when I'm not … Continue reading That Boy’s Just a Walkaway Joe
Just found a terrific blog - The Narcissistic Personality - lots of good stuff there. Good advice and well written. Check it out. Erin
Don't you wish liars' pants really did catch on fire? Of course, since we all lie, it probably isn't a good idea. It sure is a fun visual if you're in Revenge Mode! For a compulsive or pathological liar, lying becomes second nature. That's how Sociopaths pass Lie Detector tests - they're so good at … Continue reading Liar, Liar
I have mentioned my ex-husband (not to be confused with my current estranged husband, Walkaway Bob) a time or two, and I've gotten some emails asking that I share my experiences in that relationship. It's not a story I tell very often. Mostly because it's behind me, and I really don't think about it very … Continue reading Breaking Up with an Abuser
I happened to glance at my calendar today and realized that it was only six months ago, to the day, that I found out that my husband had a profile on an online dating site. That was the day my marriage ended for all practical purposes, and it feels like light years ago instead of … Continue reading Time Flies When You’re Having Fun!
Before we move on from the topic of Narcissists, let's discuss the Minimal/Low Contact and No Contact Rules for dealing with them. Of course, any option you choose in dealing with the Narcissists in your life is up to you. I'm not telling you what to do at all. (Mostly because I despise when anyone … Continue reading Narcissists, Liars & Sociopaths – Part 3
I've often thought it's such a shame that there's not a website where people can go to list their experiences and warn potential victims about their exes. I know that kind of thing would be fraught with all kinds of libel and slander issues, but damn it, we just ought to be able to warn … Continue reading Narcissists, Liars & Sociopaths – Part 2